Summer is officially over (at least traditionally officially), but the hot weather is back. Not like June and July and most of August, but still hot and humid enough to be a complete nuisance and make me want to stay inside.
Anthony finished pressure washing The Yellow House, and now she's all bright and beautiful again. Jesse came yesterday to work on the holly stumps, but the chainsaw he brought was too small. He's going to try to borrow another one, as ours disappeared along with many other things. I will probably have to buy one.
Once on some sitcom I was watching, somebody said, "You don't just marry a person; you marry the family too." I might add, you aren't just widowed from a person; sometimes you're widowed from a whole entire family. In my case, it was their choice to declare themselves dead to me. All except for one, and she's just caught in the middle, I think.
It hurts, not just because of my loss but also because I know how much it would hurt Vann. But at least I know whose "side" he would be on--since there has to be sides now. Oh well--God give me the strength to change the things I can change, the patience to accept the things I can't change, and the wisdom to know the difference--or something like that.
Thank God, Vann and I talked out all the possibilities (with me resisting and saying "We don't have to talk about this now."), and I know where he stood in the event I encountered such problems. But it's still sad.
But the heck with that! It's Rednesday! Who can be blue on Rednesday? Right? And just look at the pretty kitchen towels I won in Diane's blog giveaway: the one with the rooster in the first photo below and the black-and-white one in the second photo. Aren't they lovely? Thank you, Diane. And my kitchen thanks you too.
If you're a fan of red, as I am, you might want to visit Sue's newly redecorated blog, It's a Very Cherry World to see all the Rednesday posts. And have a good midweek, all my blogging friends. I love you all.
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On 09/08/2010, Debby Messner said ...
Winning is so much fun, isn't it.
Sorry about the family thing. Why does that happen so often. How hurtful. You have had enough to deal with. (((((HUGS))))
On 09/08/2010, Barbara Anne said ...
Lovely reds and prizes!!! I'm with you, red is a joy-joy color!!
Bummer about the members of Vanns's family who have chosen to step away from you. It's their loss - as if there isn't plenty of love and kindness to include everyone! You're right, Vann would be so disappointed in their behavior and attitudes. Bless whoever is in the middle! May she tell the rest to go fly a kite!
Let not your heart be troubled!
Hugs!
On 09/08/2010, Ruth said ...
I agree with Barbara Anne, that the family estrangement is their loss. I hope that they may see the error of their ways. Meanwhile get on with your life Susan knowing that Vann is on your side.
Love your new towels.
Ruth
On 09/08/2010, Helen in Switzerland said ...
I'm so sad that these people are being so short-sighted, but I'm very,very glad that you and Vann were sensible enough to talk this through while you could (more people should do that), so that you know exactly what he thought and you know you are doing what he wanted. I hope these silly others start to realize that tormenting you doesn't help anybody, least of all themselves... Some people just have no idea. You do seem to have lots of other loving family and friends - and I'm glad for that, but I totally understand that this situation gets you down sometimes.
Thinking of you,
best wishes,
Helen
On 09/08/2010, Leslie said ...
Cute dish towels. I hope you can deal with the family thing in a good way>
On 09/08/2010, Sally said ...
I'm so sorry for what you're going through with your husband's family. Sending you lots of hugs! When my brother passed away, my sister-in-law seemed to want us all to just vanish - my father, being the most persistent of the persistent, kept chipping away at her resolve and eventually she once again made room for us in her life.
What wonderful gifties you won in the giveaway! I adore the chickens.
Happy Rednesday,
Sally
On 09/08/2010, ann said ...
Hi Susan,
I love your dish towels, congrats on the win!!
Also, I noticed the post below with the dogs...so cute! I have little dogs too and I love them so much. Some days I get up and get going just for them. Their love is always so unconditional. :o)
I pray that you find peace and comfort.
Fondly,
Ann
@
The Tattered Tassel
On 09/09/2010, blop said ...
I, too, lost my husband a couple of months ago, and the blended family came unblended quickly. They fought the blending to begin with and now they are happy w/unblending. Their loss! My sweetie and I, too, discussed the situation before he passed. I try not to take it personally, they would do this to anyone, no matter who it was! Take good care of yourself!
On 09/10/2010, Kai said ...
GRRRRRRR to the hateful old people making my Susan's life miserable! Vann WOULD be furious, as well as SHOCKED because I KNOW he didn't teach those folks to act that way! On a better note, I love the reds! Red ALWAYS makes me smile!
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