I've had a couple of good days, painwise. Felt good enough to go to church yesterday, even though it was raining cats and schnoodles outside. After church, I had lunch with Lori, Greg, and John at our favorite Mexican restaurant. Fun, fellowship, and feasting.
The day was looking good; it had even stopped raining by the time I got home, and Sophie could finally go out for a walk. I was looking forward to a quiet afternoon of reading, when what to my wondering eyes should appear but a big SUV delivering a piece of equipment that had disappeared from my house.
I thanked the deliverer profusely (I was very happy to get it back) and was rewarded by being told I was a crazy woman who needed help. Among other things, he implied (no he didn't imply, he said) that I was doing wrong by writing about my life on my blog. It was my property, taken from my house without my knowledge, that he was returning (although I'm pretty sure he isn't the one who took it). He was in my driveway. I was nothing but gracious and grateful (although Sophie was putting up her usual rude barkfest). But I'm the one who got the insults and ugly treatment. He continued his tirade about what a horrible person I am. He ordered me to stop bothering certain people and stirring up trouble. I guess he meant that asking (nicely) for personal property to be returned is stirring up trouble. I don't know.
But I do know this. This part of my life is over. I've endured insults, disrespect, slander, and treachery for over four months, and I've had enough. Time to move on. I have a house to get in order, family and friends to spend time with, quilts to make, a dog to take for walks, a body to heal. I don't have any more time in my life to play ridiculous games when I don't even know what the rules are. The stress of the past sixteen months has worn me to a frazzle. This is me, turning a new leaf.
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On 01/25/2010, Debbie Price said ...
Oh my goodness...who would do this to you? I wish I could be there to help you...and someone TOOK something from your home? Oh my goodness...I am sitting here trying to think of what to say to you...oh my, oh my...how cruel can people be? I am so upset that someone treated you like this...wish I could be there to give you a hug and help with what you need help with...I understand how this could be too much...it's too much for me and I am a total outsider! Oh my...if you want to talk, please e-mail me...
Tons of hugs from Indiana
On 01/25/2010, Ashleigh Burke said ...
Well if you didn't know your neighborhood family loves you more and more everyday (even those who are now out of state). I sure you On-line family adores you too! So if you ever need a hand in fixing the "wrongs" you know we will help :)
Love you and i check you're blog every day.
On 01/25/2010, Lisa D. said ...
There are no words for some people. You really don't need this stress in your life, you have enough to deal with. Hugs.
On 01/25/2010, Nicole said ...
Nefarious deeds, for sure. You do not deserve that kind of treatment Susan.
On 01/25/2010, Barbara Anne said ...
Holy Smokes! That behavior is appalling, inexcusable, hateful, mean, cruel, self-centered, and WRONG. He acted like a total jerk and I hope the deliverer reads this. The very idea of such arrogance makes me want to come and knock some sense and some good manners into his head and I am almost never prone to violence either.
If some folks have been playing nice all of this time only to stop now, well, you're better off without them. It's their loss. Here's to that new leaf!
Hope you can regain your serenity and enjoy today and the days to come. Perhaps you should call a friend and go out to lunch together today or have her over for lunch. Food, a friend, and laughter would be just the right antidote. I'd come and bring lunch if it weren't so far to drive.
Glad you're feeling better!
HUGE hugs!
On 01/25/2010, Karla said ...
Wow! I don't know what happened but certainly this person is in the wrong. It is your life and you can blog as you please! What is wrong with some people? Why would someone give you such crap (sorry - let's just talk straight here - esp. if the deliverer is reading) when you are going through so much. Your blog friends love you Susan!
Karla
On 01/25/2010, Donna said ...
Susan, I am so sorry! It's your blog and you can say what you want to say! Tell them to leave you alone. It was in your basement and it should not have been taken without asking. You should be left alone and go about doing what you want to do.
Blessings,
Donna
On 01/25/2010, Rian said ...
What a despicable person to say such cruel, hurtful things. Try not to let his vile words damage your beautiful spirit.
I am sorry this happened to you.
On 01/25/2010, Sandy said ...
Good for You !!!!!! sometimes it is better to just move on..you don't have any control over other people..but it is terrible for you to have endured all the insults...being upset takes a lot out of our "old" bodies, emotionall and physically.....that said --- bless you,, hope you are feeling better everyday....
On 01/25/2010, Courtney Short-Prudhomme said ...
isn't that amazing..someone takes something from your house without your permission.. you were kind enough NOT to report the theft which you could've rightfully done.. and while standing in your yard, verbally abuses you.. the deliverer deserved to have a chunk taken out of his hide by Sophie - she knew he wasn't being nice.. after all you have been thru in the last year - even if YOU WERE crazy (which we know you aren't) - wouldn't you deserve some human understanding and courtesy? I say that if he doesn't like what you blog - DON'T READ IT.. this country affords us freedom of speech.. if you don't like it - MOVE TO ANOTHER COUNTRY.. and I would say if they don't lay off of you there is gonna be a whole posse of us (your friends) showing up in Alabama looking for him.. u just keep truckin and doing what you are doing.. we care about you and wish u all the good in the world.. all the rest can go to.. well you know where ;-)
On 01/25/2010, Jan said ...
Oh my gosh! I can't believe that!!! It sounds like you are not going to let him "steal your joy" tho, so I'm sitting here applauding you my dear :) People can be so cruel and heartless but they win only when we allow them to get to us. Congratulations to you for for not allowing that to happen :) I do so hope that you get to feeling better soon! The pain you've had to endure, both physically and mentally, makes my heart hurt. Please know that my prayers will continue to be with you :)
On 01/25/2010, Debra Spincic said ...
You are right to turn your back on any behavior that doesn't serve you well. You have to take care of yourself & if that means letting go of those that have the ability to continually hurt you, well, that's what you have to do.
We are here for you so who gives a flying crap what that kid thinks about your blog?
aaarrrggghhhh--joining Sophie in a growl.
On 01/25/2010, Melinda said ...
It is unbelievable how some people act towards others. You don't need people in your life like that. I am glad he returned the missing thing, even if he didn't take it he had no reason to talk to you like that. Just be happy you have it back and forget what he said - obviously he was speaking without any consideration of you and your feelings. I hope he is someone you can cut out of your life. You do not need to put up with this kind of behavior.
On 01/25/2010, Ruth Landon said ...
Hopefully that person is out of your life for good. Lucky for him that you didn't get the police or a good lawyer, or maybe you did.
Its hard to understand that someone could be so mean and thoughtless, not to mention down right rude. I would say good riddance to bad rubbish.
I am with the rest of your friends, Susan right behind you with my love and support.
Ruth
On 01/25/2010, CarlaH said ...
Susan, I think that you have taken the right step by putting that person (those people?) out of your life - sometimes we don't know a person's true nature until it's too late. Glad to hear that you have gotten your property back, it obviously means a lot to you.
Continue to get a little better every day - hope the visit with the surgeon goes well.
On 01/25/2010, Chris said ...
Hi Susan
Yours is the second blog I've come across in blogland that has had this kind of reaction to their blog...was the deliverer of the goods returning them to their rightful home, voicing his own opinions or those of another... its like TV or any electronic device if you don't like whats on... there is always an OFF switch..so he doesn't have to read your blog...
Enough of this TOXIC person, there are plenty of lovely people out there in Blogland to compensate for one bad apple...
In appreciation and thanks, take care and look after yourself...
Chris...Wellington...NZ
On 01/25/2010, valerie said ...
You go girl!!! I am proud of you. I, too am also to that point. Why can't everyone just be happy?
On 01/25/2010, Kelly Ann said ...
Good girl.....
On 01/25/2010, Kai said ...
Remember that song, "It's my Party" - popular in the 60s? Well, you should have told that insufferable JERK that it's YOUR blog and you will write if you WANT to! Grrrrr! I could chew him up and spit him right out. I'm so proud of you! Enough of him and people LIKE him - all the naysayers & fulltime grumps! You are a ROCK STAR and I just LOVE you! P.S. I'd suggest Sophie bite him but she may catch something NASTY from his disposition!
On 01/25/2010, Pat said ...
I read the first part twice to catch on... So sorry. It is your blog!! Glad you got your whatever returned. Something worked! Glad you got your BGPs on! lol
On 01/25/2010, Linda J.W. said ...
All I can say is i am sorry that you had to go through that.You know what stress does to your body and you don't need this JERK talking to you like that and I am trying to be nice.When I was younger I would set back
and keep my mouth shut but not now.I wished
that I was close by he would't be walking very good wright now.Don't let this get to you my DEAR FRIEND the stress is the worst
thing for your health
Think happy thoughts I know I do for you
BIG HUGS from TEXAS
Linda W.
On 01/25/2010, hunnybunnyknits said ...
Oh my goodness Susan, that is insane! I've had toxic people in my life as well, but never anything so bold. I can not believe someone would treat you that way, it's unacceptable. I wish I was there with my horrible Boston attitude!You have enough going on without someone else's problems and poor choices.
I hope that you are keeping your local friends informed and getting all the support you need.
On 01/26/2010, Laurie said ...
Good for you Susan! I would have punched him in the nose. Well, no I wouldn't, but I would have wanted to!
On 01/26/2010, WendyC said ...
Hi Susan, Put the bad stuff behind you and close the door on it. Tonight, cuddle up with Sophie and tell Van all about it, tell him you are going to forget the last months and remember the good times instead. Tomorrow have a look in your fabric stash and find bright cheerful stuff and make something to celebrate, if you don't have any happy fabric go on-line and order some. No-one can take away what you had unless you let them. Slam that door hard xx
On 01/26/2010, Sharon said ...
(((Susan))) I can only echo what others have already said here - - and no one needs to put up with toxic people in their lives. Focus on what is positive in your life.
BTW - I LOVE that little doggie applique - brought a smile to my face!
On 01/28/2010, Carol said ...
Good for you Susan...you have taken the absolute right stand. You need this stress out of your life...you need to take care of yourself and get YOU feeling good again. Just wrong, how some people think they just deserve things...that entitlement thing...makes me nuts....and that they think they can treat people any way they want. You take care!
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