Sunday, November 10, 2019

Saying Goodbye

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Joanne Ramey Cage, 84, of Leeds Alabama passed away on November 4, 2019. Joanne was born in Birmingham and lived in Leeds, Birmingham, Huntsville, Selma, and Montgomery. She attended the University of Alabama and worked at the University of Alabama in Birmingham. A dedicated poet, she wrote her first poem in third grade. After she retired, she started sharing her poems and continued writing new ones. She won many awards from the Alabama State Poetry Association, including first-place awards in the Association's top contests. She joins her daughter, Virginia Anne Cage in Heaven. She is survived by her sons, Julius Theodore Cage and James DeWitt Cage, her sisters Susan Ramey Cleveland and Patricia Ramey Channell, and her nieces Caitlín Rebekah Kiernan, Angela Wright Osborn, India Camille Dyer, and Buffy Channell Hosey. Memorial services will be held on Sunday, November 10, 2019, at Kilgroe Funeral Home in Leeds. Visitation with the family will start at 1:00 p.m. and services will begin at 2:00.


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On 11/10/2019, Barbara Anne said ...

Blessings and peace to you and all who love Joanne as you gather today to say good-bye to her for now.

Blessings and peace, too, in the days and weeks ahead.

Hugs


On 11/10/2019, Nicole said ...

Thinking of you and wishing you comfort in the days ahead as you remember your dear sister Joanne.


On 11/10/2019, Jan said ...

Thinking of you & your loved ones at this heartbreaking time.


On 11/12/2019, Sandra Clarke said ...

Sympathy & love to you in the loss of your sister.
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Tuesday, November 5, 2019

With a New Voice

12030285_10153724461294853_210530920108552181_oSarah Joanne Ramey Cage
December 27, 1934 - November 4, 2019
 
 
Singing in the Wilderness
 
For a year I sang in the choir
at Church of the Ascension,
until the director discovered
I was only moving my mouth
and never making a sound.
 
I had to be in the middle of the singing,
though I'd never been able to read the notes
or carry a tune in a bucket.
So I may not sing in the choir
when I enter the pearly gates:
 
But if I can just be in the middle of the singing,
my heart will sing like a mockingbird.
 
                                     By JRC, 01/26/16

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On 11/05/2019, Rega said ...

I have enjoyed reading your blog for years. I am a knitter. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister and am thinking and praying for you and your family.


On 11/05/2019, Nicole said ...

My deepest condolences Susan.


On 11/05/2019, Mary Lines said ...

Praying for you and your family.


On 11/05/2019, Sylvia said ...

So very sorry. Sharing your sadness and wishing you comfort.


On 11/05/2019, Barbara Anne said ...

With deepest sympathy to you and the family in the loss of your dear sister and friend.

Grace, peace, love, and hugs, my friend.


On 11/05/2019, Jan said ...

I am sending my deepest sympathy for the loss of your sister.


On 11/05/2019, Helen in Switzerland said ...

So very sorry to hear your news. Thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad time for you all.


On 11/05/2019, Melanie Winters said ...

I'm so sorry for your loss, hoping you find comfort in all the wonderful memories you have of your precious sister.


On 11/05/2019, Jane McCarthy said ...

I am so very sorry for the loss of your sister. I am sure she is right in the middle of the choir and making beautiful music.


On 11/05/2019, Suze said ...

Susan,
so sorry for your loss...sending prayers


On 11/06/2019, Judy Cloe said ...

I am very sorry you have lost your sister and grateful you still have one sister to share your grief. Sending love and hugs.


On 11/07/2019, Sue, a Florida Farm Girl said ...

She's got to be singing sweet music now. My condolences on the loss of your dear sister.


On 11/07/2019, Jeanne Horacek said ...

So sorry for the loss of your sister. I have read your blog posts for years and know your family is near to your heart. I will pray that you will find comfort in all the beautiful memories you have of her.


On 11/08/2019, Pat said ...

I’m so sorry for your loss. Love the poem. Keep singing YOUR song. Hugs.


On 11/10/2019, Bonnie Anderson said ...

I'm so sorry for your great loss. May your wonderful memories help to sustain you.
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Sunday, November 3, 2019

In a Country Graveyard

Yesterday, Ramey and I visited the very old country cemetery where our mama, daddy, grandparents, and many aunts, uncles, and cousins rest. She wanted to show me the spot she had claimed for the three Ramey sisters, and I whole-heartedly approved. 

This little cemetery is really, really old--well over a hundred years old. No one purchases space in it, but you do have to request a spot (or spots) and show that you have family there. Donations accepted, of course.

Cem2A very old part of the cemetery


Cem3Some relatives

Cem1Ramey makes some repairs on the 100-plus-year-old homemade marker of our great grandparents.

Ramey and I visited Joanne and nephew Jed afterwards. Joanne is sleeping peacefully all the time now. Since she is in hospice care, she is getting no nourishment nor liquids. And so, we wait. It feels very weird and sad. Almost unreal. And we pray.


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On 11/03/2019, Debbie Price said ...

It is so hard, waiting and watching. My sister and I took shifts, sitting with my daddy when he was in hospice. I talked so much to him, hoping he heard. I read to him, too.
I love you guys. You have all touched my life in ways you may never know.
Please whisper to Joanne that I love her and I told my daddy to watch for her. They would have really liked each other.
All my love, to all of you.


On 11/03/2019, Jan said ...

Wishing you & your family strength at this sad time.


On 11/03/2019, Ramey Channell said ...

Susan, Thank you for posting this. The pictures look great! And thanks to Debbie and Jan for their sweet comments.


On 11/03/2019, Barbara Anne said ...

We, too, watched over AMIL when she was in hospice care and read to her, taking a lots about the good memories we shared. We requested that the radio in the room be kept on a music station when we weren't there.

Remember the good times as they've been plentiful.

Peace be with each of you at this difficult time.

Love and hugs.
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Friday, November 1, 2019

The Haunting of Yellow House

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I have never believed nor disbelieved in ghosts. Well, not since childhood at least. I've never experienced one of the critters except in literature, art, music, and movies. And I've just never had an occasion to have to decide whether or not such things exists. I think now, I have to decide.

I have written about the strange and continuing disappearance of dishes that has been happening for about a year now. I have learned to live with that. After all, I have more dishes than I need. And until one of my pink Mason Vista transferware plates disappeared after book club last month, nothing that I treasure had been victim to the phenomenon.

But now something really disturbing has happened. A couple of weeks ago, I sewed binding to the front of the Spooky mini quilt that I made for my DIL's Christmas present. I have not had a chance to finish it up, and it has been lying upstairs in my sewing room where no one goes but me. This morning, the Merry Maids lady came (for the first time), and I had a little time to stitch. And look what I discovered when I picked up the Spooky quilt to work on the binding!

Damage1One of the mitered corners had been whacked away.

Damage2Look what a mess!

Damage3This is how the other three corners look--and how the fourth corner looked when I left it.

I know positively that I did not do this. For one thing, after I had sewn the binding down, I went all around checking to see if I had got all the edges sewn. I know I would have seen a whacked off corner if, for some reason, I had whacked it off.

To my knowledge, nobody else has been in my sewing room. Not even Jesse, who would have never done such a ridiculous thing anyway. I guess I could blame one of the furbies. But I have an easier time believing in ghosts than believing that one of the pets would have/could have operated a pair of scissors.

No, ladies and gentleman, I am now of the opinion that something unusual is going on in my house. Someone or something is trying to either get my attention or piss me off. Call it a haunting, a ghost, a poltergeist, sunspots, or underground rivers. I want it to stop. I have to unsew enough of the binding to be able to splice another strip in (which, thank goodness, I still have some of) and do another miter. So I best get to it, hadn't I? Before the cleaning lady leaves.

This afternoon, sister Ramey and I are going to the cemetery to choose a burial plot. I hate this. Joanne is still with us, if only just barely. I have never started funeral planning before someone has passed. But this is what Joanne's son, our nephew Jed, wants us to do. So we're doing it. I think we'll pick out three plots while we're there, so that Un, Deux, and Trois can all be laid to rest as together.

Happy November, everyone.


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On 11/01/2019, Barbara Anne said ...

Your damaged corner is a puzzlement.

I recently had a similar mystery but in reverse. I needed to repair binding on the flannel quilt AMIL made for FIL as it had an area where the binding had pulled away from the quilt. When I looked for that area before starting to machine sew (all the binding was loose), it had already been repaired. I didn't do it and DH says he didn't do it. Odd.

I'm so very sorry at the sad task you and Ramey are faced with this afternoon. Prayers continue.

Hugs :(


On 11/02/2019, Nicole said ...

That is so weird Susan. Could someone have access to your house while you are away? That's the first thing that popped into my mind. I am a sceptic too when it comes to the paranormal. Although, there is a very cool Scottish woman who is on YouTube who swears her house is haunted and presents a convincing argument. Her channel is "Sparkles Books" (she mostly does book reviews which you would enjoy too). Her ghost mainly opens up all her cupboard doors and does little acts of mischief.
Sorry you have to do such a sad errand today.


On 11/02/2019, Jan said ...

Have you considered a recording doorbell or security cameras? There comes a point when it's not amusing any longer. I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking task but you are right, your nephew needs his aunts at this difficult time.


On 11/03/2019, Ann Marie said ...

I would get a hidden camera and set it up, probably need more than one.
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Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Sad Days

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My family is going through tough times, so some things like blogging, quilting, reading, etc., have been put on hold. My older sister, Joanne, is gravely ill. The medical staff has said her days are numbered--they just aren’t able to tell us what that number is. She has been going downhill very rapidly during the past week, however, so we don’t expect to have much longer with her.

Joanne, Mama and Daddy’s first child, was born a whole decade before I, their second, was. Sister Ramey came along about 3 1/2 years after me.

Because of the age difference, Joanne has been almost like a second mom to me. She was there for me during most of the tragedies and joys of my life. She sewed either my wedding dress of my prom dress (I can never remember which--Mama sewed one and Joanne sewed the other). She encouraged my writing. She introduced me to beer (I drank my first beer at her house when I was 18). She shares my love of literature and quilting. And she’s a wonderful poet. 

I’m rambling, I know. Just typing things as they come into my head. Joanne, as well as sister Ramey, have been rocks in my life. We’re like a unit, “the three Ramey sisters,” “Un, Deux, and Trois." I don’t know what we’ll do when Un is gone.


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On 10/30/2019, Rose said ...

I'm so sorry. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.


On 10/30/2019, Anita said ...

I'm so sorry, Susan.


On 10/30/2019, Melanie Winters said ...

I'm so sorry Susan, thoughts and prayers for you and yours.


On 10/30/2019, Bev said ...

Oh I am so sorry.


On 10/30/2019, Sharon said ...

Susan,so sorry. I will be sure to pray for all your family.


On 10/30/2019, Nicole said ...

I am so sorry Susan. I lost my sister a few years ago and miss her so much. I will be thinking of you and your family.


On 10/30/2019, Sherri C said ...

I'm so sorry. Keeping you all in my prayers.


On 10/30/2019, Jan said ...

I'm so sorry Susan. Your are in my heart & in my thoughts at this difficult time.


On 10/31/2019, Sandra Clarke said ...

Thinking of you & your family at this sad time. Love & prayers for peace.
Love,
Sandra❤️🙏❤️


On 11/01/2019, Barbara Anne said ...

I hope there is a cure for what ails your dear sister Joanne and that it's available now, in the nick of time so all will be well. Wish, hope, and pray.

Holding you in my heart at this worrisome time.

Big hugs


On 11/02/2019, Pat said ...

I’m so sorry. Praying for you and your family.
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Friday, October 18, 2019

Autumn’s Here; Christmastime’s a’Comin'

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Ahhhhh. 40s at night, 70s in the daytime. Now that’s what I call Autumn! It’s finally here. I’m sure we’ll have the occasional spell of very warm to almost hot weather, but these days of cool breezes are wonderful. Of course, the atmospheric changes do a number on the pain sensors too. But I’ll take them to be rid of blazing temps and sloshing humidity.

I’m happy to say that I got off the couch yesterday. Sister Ramey and I shopped for some goodies for Sister Joanne who has been a bit under the weather recently. I tried to talk Ramey into doing lunch, but she had to take her grandson Reed for a haircut. So I picked up Chinese for me and Jesse, went back home, settled in my nest on the couch, and did some reading.

I’m reading Stephen King’s new book The Institute. Happy to report it’s another King of Horror page-turner. 

I’m having another sewing room dry spell and anxious to get some sewing done. I have Christmas gifts to work on and the holidays draw ever nearer. Seems like just the other day that I made the resolution to get an early start on Christmas. Well a do have several things “started.” Just nothing “finished."

Early in the week, I had a phone call from a friend in Virginia. She told me that she was driving down to Georgia to pick up another friend and they were coming to my neck of the woods to see some of us who went to high school together. She said she would call again when she had more details. So far, no more details. I wonder if they’re still coming.

I have the laundry done, and nothing else is pressing, so I’m going to try to get up those stairs to the sewing room. Later, gators.

 


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On 10/18/2019, Barbara Anne said ...

Same weather here and its glorious! Wish the rain had come sooner as the trees aren't nearly as colorful as usual due to the lack of rain. Last Tuesday day long rain helped, but probably wasn't soon enough to save the trees' autumn show.

Love your Halloween/autumn photo. What lovely colors in those pretty quilts!

I'm about to press my Halloween OP project that I had quilted with orange thread and it delights me every time I see it.

My Christmas sewing is nearly finished but of course now I'm considering making a winter table runner for DH's aunts who live together.

Put some happy music on in your sewing room and enjoy!

Hugs!
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Wednesday, October 16, 2019

RUGS???

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The Merry Maids lady and I had a great visit yesterday. I walked her through the house for her thorough investigation. She rubbed window sills, climbed into the bathtub, scratched stains, found a cobweb. That gal was sho nuff thorough. 

In the process, she stopped to admire all my quilts that she came across and kept asking me if I really made them all. I guess we’re all familiar with non-quilt people calling them “blankets.” That bugs me no end. But this woman, until I corrected her (I just had to), referred to them as “rugs.” Rugs, mind you. Have you ever heard that?

She loved the animals, although she was a bit nonplussed by Taco’s big eyes. “He looks like he wants to attack me,” she said at one point. I assured her that he was the friendliest of cats and would not think of attacking her. The only person he ever attacks is Andy, and we haven’t figured out why he does that.

Except for the rug comment, Michelle the Merry Maids Lady was charming. With a deliciously thick southern good-ol’-girl accent, she gave me all the details, and more numbers than I could keep track of. She was not at all high-pressure, a thing that I especially value.

In the end, I decided to sign up for 12 months of service at a not-so-nominal fee. (I can opt out at any time, but if I cancel before the 12 months is over, there’s a fee.)The service will begin with a “deep cleaning,” which is especially needed, then every other visit will be a deep cleaning. The others will be regular. It remains to be seen the quality of the service, but the sales pitch was most agreeable--as there was no pitch at all, just information.

Watched two Netflix movies of note last night: “El Camino,” which is the continuation of the embattled life of Jesse Pinkman, one of the main characters from “Breaking Bad,” and “Fractured,” a real nail biter of a psychological thriller.

I needed the distraction of good entertainment last night as the Pain Monster was on me like a duck on a june bug. I guess I should have opted for something more serene and calm than the two I picked, but strangely, I am much more distracted by thrillers than more jolly movies and books. The pain has let up a little bit this morning--as long as I sit still or lie on the couch. But, as usual, that old monster doesn’t like me to be on my feet. 

I’ve come to feel quite the slacker. I read these women’s comments and posts on the Facebook pages peopled by chronic pain sufferers, and they don’t seem to feel a smidgen bit of guilt because of their inabilities to keep up with their normal responsibilities. Then why do I? I could blame it on my first husband, who has been known to come home and run his hands above the door frames to see if there was any dust. But that was years ago. I should be over all that nonsense by now. I think I must just have a guilt gene.

Happy whatever day this is to all.


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On 10/16/2019, Deb said ...

Funny maid story! I've never had a thorough house cleaning but it sounds like something I would love (and need!). Hope it works out for you and it will be money well spent!


On 10/17/2019, Barbara Anne said ...

Am glad you tried to educate this woman as all good Southerners should know a quilt when they see on - no matter the size or location! Hope the Merry Maids are as good in Leeds as they were when I hired them long ago in Memphis.

Now, honey, I used to work with a nurse who felt guilty over absolutely everything for having to work to provide for her baby to should have done laundry to hang out before coming to work, to having the wrong color nail polish on. I decided then and there that feeling guilty is a choice in most situations. You didn't vote to have fibro. and the limitations it causes,it was done unto you without your say so. Therefore, no guilt!!!

Hugs!


On 10/22/2019, Wendy said ...

Oh my - I cannot even imagine my husband thinking of checking the door frames for dust. Best to put that memory way behind you. I think maybe it isn't slacking that you feel but a desire to do more than you are able and that is frustrating! Chronic pain is exhausting and wearing both physically and mentally. Maybe just try to be gentle with yourself with your inner dialogue. You are doing all you can under your current circumstances and that is all you can do. I would certainly use my energy to quilt instead of house cleaning! You have made some very beautiful quilts.
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